3 Wedding Invitation Myths You’ve Been Told (and the Truth Behind Them)

When you start wedding planning, everyone (and I mean EVERYONE) suddenly has an opinion about what you need to do. From budget hacks to color schemes, it can feel like you're getting pulled in a dozen different directions.

As someone who's helped countless couples design their wedding invitations and day-of details over the past few years, I’ve heard just about every myth out there. I’m Kelli, the calligrapher and designer behind Swirls & Script, and I’ve seen how the right stationery can completely transform how your guests experience your day. So today, I’m clearing up three of the biggest wedding invitation myths that might be holding you back from creating something truly special.

Myth 1: “No one keeps invitations anyway.”

The truth: They absolutely do.

Your invitation is the very first glimpse guests have into your wedding day. It’s the piece that gets pinned to the fridge, tucked into a scrapbook, or saved in your memory box for years to come. Parents and grandparents often frame them, and I’ve had couples include their invitations in their wedding flat lays or even have them preserved with their bouquet after the big day.

When your stationery is thoughtfully designed and beautifully made, it becomes more than paper. It becomes part of your story.

Myth 2: “You can DIY it all and save money.”

The truth: DIY isn’t always the money-saver it sounds like.

Between specialty paper, printing, postage, and all the little tools and materials you don’t think about upfront, those “savings” disappear quickly. And that’s before you count the hours spent cutting, gluing, and addressing envelopes. Trust me, before I designed invitations I DIYed my own invitations and had a full on meltdown when I was hand writing all the addresses late at night.

A professional stationer helps you avoid those mistakes and hidden costs while creating something cohesive, intentional, and perfectly you. You also get expert guidance on etiquette, printing methods, quantities, and all the other details most couples don’t realize matter until it’s too late.

Working with a designer isn’t just about pretty paper. It’s about saving your time, your sanity, and making sure everything arrives looking exactly how you imagined.

Myth 3: “Your invitations have to match perfectly.”

The truth: Your stationery doesn’t have to match; it just needs to go together.

Gone are the days when everything had to be the same color, font, or pattern. Instead, think of your suite as a story. Your save the date sets the tone, your invitation builds the excitement, and your day-of pieces (think menus, place cards, and signage) tie everything together in a way that feels cohesive and intentional.

It’s all about complements, not carbon copies. When each piece complements the others, your stationery feels effortless and custom-tailored to your celebration.

The Bottom Line

Your wedding invitations are the first impression of your day, and they deserve just as much care and creativity as the rest of your plans.

If you’ve fallen for any of these myths, you’re definitely not alone. That’s exactly why I guide my couples through every step, from design to delivery, so their stationery feels like them and sets the perfect tone for their celebration.

Ready to start dreaming up your invitations? Inquire here and let’s create something beautiful together.